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Keeping Your Christmas Spirit — Even Now

“Keep Christmas with you… all through the year.” Good song. Good thought. Good spirit.

After a months-long, multi-million dollar buildup to the climax on Christmas day, December 26 kills it stone-cold dead. No more carols, no more commercials and sale fliers, no more sales, no more hopes or expectations. Hunt in vain for Christmas specials on TV. The lights and decorations go back in the box. The tree goes out by the street for pickup. I’m getting depressed just thinking about it.

This year we had our own “drag” on the spirit of Christmas… both before and after. Christmas was on Saturday, and on the Sunday just before, my wife’s sister died unexpectedly in Colorado. Sixty-seven years old.

We still had Christmas. We still enjoyed it. We watched the movies, she knitted baby hats. We gave gifts, and had a good Christmas morning with our younger son, and spoke to the rest of the family by phone.

I hope your letdown is not so severe. But we kept Christmas going, and we’re STILL keeping it going. Here’s some ideas so you can too.

PLAN to take down your tree. Make it a de-decorating party. Play the music, enjoy reminiscing about the ornaments again, have hot chocolate. Packing things away can be part of your Christmas. When I told my mother about this, she said, “That’s so much better than my system, which is to scream at people until it gets done.”

When our kids were young in Pennsylvania we drove quite a few miles each year to drop off our tree at Nockamixon State Park, which chipped them for use on park paths. Some folks load their tree with bird or squirrel goodies, and put it out in the yard.

International “Christmas” holidays ramble on for another couple of weeks. You might not get much out of Boxing Day, or St. Stephens Day, or the martyrdom of St. Thomas à Becket. But we used to invite friends to an annual Twelfth Night/Epiphany party. We’d play the Christmas music one more time, serve festive foods, and have a good relaxed time enjoying, and saying goodbye to, the holiday.

Thanks to the magic of CDs, DVDs, MP3s, streaming services, and more, you can enjoy the music and the movies for as long as you like. Did you miss a favorite Christmas movie? Watch it now! If anybody else thinks it’s goofy, fine. They can go home and watch “Judgement at Nuremburg.” You’re entitled to watch, and listen to, whatever you want, and do it WHEN you want. Your pleasure isn’t chained to the calendar.

It’s still the season of giving. Just as retail business (even grocery stores, believe it or not) go down for a month or so after Christmas, so do donations, including blood donations. But the needs are even higher at this time when the weather often gets dangerous. So, think about whom YOU’D like to support a little extra “at this festive season.” Just a few days ago we mailed checks to Finger Lakes SPCA and Food Bank of the Southern Tier, not to mention our church. Give in the spirit of Christmas, and you can extend your Christmas. All through the year.

Midnight Mass: A Hornell Christmas Legend

(As the title says, this is a legend. But a hundred years ago, local people did exactly these same things — and worse — convinced that they were doing good. Sadder still, we find it back again today. — K.H.)

The congregation sang “Silent Night,” and the choir responded with one resounding chorus of “Go Tell it on the Mountain,” Pastor MacDonald said, “Merry Christmas,” and the 1925 Christmas Eve service was a treasured memory. The children grinned and vibrated, the grownups smiled and stirred, and everybody started gathering coats and hats, and peering under pews for mittens. “Thank you, Pastor!” “Beautiful service, pastor!” “Merry Christmas, Pastor! See you on Sunday!”

Mrs. MacDonald squeezed his hand. “Another fine service, John. Everyone loves your Christmas messages so much. Are we about ready to go?”

He squeezed her hand back. “Not quite, beloved. Take the children home in the motorcar, and I need five minutes with a group in my office, then I’ll walk back to the parsonage. So I will be with you in twenty minutes, but later I’ll have to go out again. After the children are all in bed.”

She sighed. “THAT group? Tonight, of all nights?”

“Tonight above all other nights, my dear. It’s a very small sacrifice for God and country.” He wanted to kiss her, but many of the older folks in the congregation would be fleeing the sanctuary before the thunderbolt struck. Some of the younger ones, too, for all that it WAS the 1920s, with even the Great War now history.

The half-dozen people in his office all jumped a little when he walked in. Why would such a ministry opportunity scare them so much? Well, as ever, the flesh is weak. But still. These are the truly committed.

My Klan.

He smiled. “Merry Christmas.” They smiled, and relaxed just a trifle, emotionally seizing on the familiar. “Merry Christmas, Pastor!”

Better. More vim. “Let’s begin with prayer. Heavenly Father, we thank thee for sending thine only begotten Son to us, to be the Light of the World. Grant that we, too, may be lesser lights for thee, under the glorious fiery cross. Amen.” The others muttered “amen” after him.

He beamed on them. “Now, I know this is the first time for all of you, and you feel a little awkward. Some of these folks you might brush shoulders with at the grocery store, or might work beside at the Erie roundhouse. And they may even be good people!

“But that just makes it even sadder. They’re lost, lost in heathen darkness. AND they threaten our beloved country, America the beautiful. Remember that Catholics MUST obey their priests, and priests MUST obey the Pope – or they’ll each go to Hell. So even if they want to, they CAN’T be loyal to America. And if Al Smith wins the White House at the next election, well, the Pope will rule us. He’ll pull the strings in the White House, and even here in Hornell.” He paused. “The next step will be persecution.”

They groaned, but didn’t speak. “We’ve got to stand up for America, for the cause of God and truth… a white man’s country, and a Protestant country, just like God gave our forefathers and they passed down to us, and we’re going to pass it on to OUR children!” Several heartfelt “amens” answered him.

“So we’re going to picket their midnight mass. And all across western New York, Klansmen from other churches will do the same in their own communities. We don’t do this in anger, but in sorrow. We want Catholics to see the error of their ways and repent. But we also want them to know that if they try to steal our country, they’ll have a fight on their hands!”

“Yes!”

“So – no aggressiveness, no arguments. We’ll just march – peacefully – and silently – back and forth on the sidewalk ACROSS from Saint Ann’s. Don’t interfere with anyone, don’t block their way.” He looked them over, and made a decision. “Leave your picket signs here, in the office. I’ll pick them up, and I’ll bring them along. DO NOT start without me. ABSOLUTELY do not. We need to show the world that we Ku Klux have discipline. Heaven knows people will criticize us anyway… the world always does, when you’re doing the Lord’s work… but we’re not going to hand them any extra excuses. Now all join hands for a closing prayer, and meet back here, on the front steps, at 11:30.” Moments later, he was locking up and striding home.

Pastor MacDonald always loved Christmas Eve with his children… reading the Christmas story by candlelight, piling all three kids onto the sofa with him for “The Night Before Christmas,” the whole family sharing hot chocolate, and then putting the little ones to bed. A lot of his calling involved the skillful use of words, but even he couldn’t possibly find words to say how much he loved them.

As the clock struck eleven he put his coat and scarf on and kissed his wife, who was clearly restraining herself from saying the things she wanted to, but of course a woman’s view was limited to the home – rightly so, he thought, but that blinded her to the bigger needs of a whole nation. The night was cold and the stars were bright – a storybook Christmas! – as he stepped out briskly toward the church.

He got half-way there before one leg flew high off a streak of black ice, momentum yanking the other foot off the ground with it, and he only had time to grunt before he smashed onto the sidewalk full-length on his left side, flopped onto his back, and stayed there. The stars were still up above. But the view was very different.

Brakes screeched, a car door slammed, and fast footsteps sounded. “Mister! Hey, mister! You awake?”

“I’m awake, thanks,” the pastor croaked. “Got the wind knocked out.”

“You sure went flying.” The stranger whistled. “Look, mister, I’m a Scout leader. If we were out in the field, I’d splint that leg of yours before I let you move. One of these houses must have a ‘phone. You stay put, and I’ll have them call the ambulance. OK?”

“OK,” he said. His voice was a little stronger, but so was the pain. “Hurts to breathe, too.”

“Well, all the more reason, then.” Despite a blanket sent out from the house that had the ‘phone, Pastor MacDonald’s teeth were chattering by the time he finally heard one wail from a siren. Doors slammed, once again footsteps sounded, the Scout leader whispered to the newcomers, and two ambulance volunteers got down on their knees with the pastor. “Mister, my name is Pavelski. We’ll put a splint on this leg of yours, just in case, just until we get you to the hospital, and the docs there can take care of anything you need. After the splint we’ll rock you onto a stretcher, and it’s going to hurt. So’s the splinting. You weren’t in the war, were you?”

“Not… overseas.”

“Well, O’Brien and me were. We promise, we know what we’re doing. We’ve done it before. But like I said, it’s going to hurt.”

And so it did, making the pastor’s head swirl, but he was still alert enough to say, “Not St. James Mercy Hospital,” when they got him loaded into the ambulance. “Take me to Bethesda.” He would NOT go to a Catholic hospital where some Romish priest would pollute him with incense, and gabble vain utterances in their dead foreign tongue. O’Brien and Pavelski looked at him, then at each other, then shrugged. “Bethesda it is. Either way, be prepared. Some of these streets have frost heaves.”

Which proved to be painfully true, but before long he was in a bed, with a doctor busily on the job and his wife finally sent for. “Broken left leg. Broken left arm – both will need traction. Ribs might be cracked, but the good news is that your back is probably just wrenched. I’m afraid you’re going to be enjoying our hospitality for quite a while, Mr. MacDonald.”

“Pastor.”

“Sorry, Pastor MacDonald. Afraid this won’t be much of a Christmas for you. I’m Doctor Cohen. We’ll be spending a lot of time together for the next few weeks.” The pastor closed his eyes. Cohen. I should have gone to St. James. Why are you punishing me, Lord?

O’Brien and Pavelski, with a little help from their siren, caught the last ten minutes of midnight mass. When it was finished, happy parishioners streamed into the silent and holy night.

Finding the Christmas Spirit

Christmas is comin’! Do you feel the Christmas spirit?

Quite possibly the answer is no… or not quite… or not yet. You may be struggling to find it, and feeling that it just doesn’t seem to come this year.

Have you thought about MAKING it come? We often feel that things like this ought to happen spontaneously, but in fact hardly ANYTHING happens that way. People DECIDE to stir up a mob, and other people DECIDE to join in. There’s nothing spontaneous about it.

On a cheerier note, you can DECIDE to bring the Christmas spirit into your life. We try each year to do something different for Christmas. Last year we took a chilly December Saturday to wander along Owego’s Riverrow. The street, the bridge, and surrounding neighborhoods are decked out enthusiastically. We wandered into a few stores (with masks!), ordered and ate lunch (at an outside table!). We just enjoyed sharing Owego’s Christmas.

This year we went in the opposite direction from Bath, to the snowy Rochester Public Market, where we rambled around the stalls, enjoying the music and the decorations.

We also have traditional things we do just about every year. Yesterday we visited Rockwell Museum to see this year’s entries in the Gingerbread Invitational – with such creations as “Gourdlandia”… a 3-D Corning montage… Watkins Glen… Taughannock Falls… a bears’ picnic. Tuscarora School children envisioned themselves having class in a railroad car.

Afterward you can see the rest of the museum! You can also stroll Corning’s Market Street, noting that silver seems to be a theme color this year, just as giant Christmas bulbs are common. Only one place has three life-size reindeer, though. See how long it takes you to spot them!

Besides Corning and Owego, Canandaigua (LONG Main Street) and Penn Yan (short Main Street) are places that can give you their own infusion of Christmas. So can gaslight-lit Wellsboro, in nearby Pennsylvania.

Sometime this week we expect to drive around Bath after sunset, enjoying the many illuminations, and the lovely star that shines down on the village from Mossy Bank. Another “regular” event, which we’ll probably do this weekend, is visit the holiday miniatures show at the National Soaring Museum. (Old-timers will recall that this exhibit of dollhouses, toys, and models used to be at CURTISS Museum.)

Be prepared to pivot, and capitalize on the unexpected! One year Joyce was in Sayre Hospital for several December days, with unexpected heart trouble, but we all appreciated the carol singers.

You’re reasonably in charge of what you read, and what you watch, and what you listen to. Maybe you have a favorite Christmas movie: The Bishop’s Wife; The Preacher’s Wife; It Happened on Fifth Avenue; Love Actually; A Christmas Carol; Santa Claus Conquers the Martians! You’re not out to impress anybody. Put in a disc, call up a screening service, catch a broadcast – sit down and give yourself permission to ENJOY yourself.

You can also give yourself permission to skip something. Honest. “But it wouldn’t be Christmas without…!” Well, actually it would. If doing it’s going to burden you, instead of letting you enjoy the season – skip it. If you want to bake cookies, great. You can also buy them. And you should, rather than beat yourself down, or make life miserable for those around you. Forgive yourself. However you feel about Christmas or religion, the holiday clearly has SOME connection to Jesus. He talked a lot about forgiveness. Go ahead and forgive yourself. And enjoy the days.

Christmas Books to Read Aloud

Mrs. Window on the West and I are in our seventies now, but we still continue a tradition begun when our older son was just a toddler. We select a book together, and I read it aloud, usually while she is doing the dishes. It’s sort of like having an audio book, but without the machinery. Also, it’s easier to re-wind.
In December we usually concentrate on Christmas stories, and we just finished (re)reading The Twenty-Four Days Before Christmas, by Madeleine L’Engle. She’s best known as the author of A Wrinkle in Time. The slim book we’ve been reading is a family story, of how the family does one special (but simple) Christmas activity each day in December. The plot builds as Christmas, the Christmas Eve pageant, the anticipated birth of a new baby, and a major blizzard all race toward the point where the Austins are.
Tonight we expect to start Anne Perry’s new seasonal book, A Christmas Legacy. But those aren’t really childhood fare, so in case you have kids at home I thought we might look at some more full-family books, starting with one that has deep roots in our region.
Julia Sauer was born in Rochester, and she died in Rochester, and she went to the University of Rochester, and she headed up the children’s department (1921-1958) at Rochester’s public library. For decades she’s been slowly fading from memory, which is tragic, for her juvenile novel Fog Magic is an overlooked classic that explores the porous bundary between present and past, fantasy and reality, natural and supernatural.
But we’re looking today at her slim juvenile novel The Light at Tern Rock. On the surface it’s a simple tale of an old woman, who spent most of her life at an isolated lighthouse, agreeing to tend the light for a few days so that the current keeper can make a family visit ashore. Before long the widowed woman and her orphaned grandson realize that they’ve been deliberately marooned on Tern Rock, not just over Christmas, but actually BECAUSE it’s Christmas. They have to deal not just with the fact of their circumstances, but with their own emotions and reactions. It’s a rough story in some ways, a story of loss as well as finding, but one that can touch readers or listeners, and linger for a lifetime.
If Julia Sauer is fading from memory, Frances Frost is already gone, having died of cancer 62 years ago, at the age of 53. She published almost 30 books, and the 49 libraries of our Southern Tier Library System have exactly five copies under her name.
As Julia Sauer was a lifelong Rochestrian, Frances Frost was a Vermonter from cradle to grave. Sleigh Bells for Windy Foot opens with a man setting up the village Christmas tree, and laconically mentioning that he had lost his son in the war. (This was published in 1948.) From there the story is the story of farm boy Toby, with his family, his friends, and his Shetland pony, enjoying the Vermont winter and getting ready for Christmas. There’s snow to ski in, and to sleigh in, deer to admire, gifts to make. It’s a breath of cold clear Vermont air. Yes, there are troubles aplenty in the world, but now and then you get a season of grace.
Frederick Forsythe is noted for (and has made fortunes on) novels overflowing with assassins, explosions, betrayals, and ticking time bombs. He also wrote The Shepherd, about a cold dark Christmas Eve, and a British fighter jet pilot lost, with his instruments and his radio dead, above the utterly indifferent North Sea. And it’s about another pilot, in an obsolete aircraft, who finds him and leads him home.
Perhaps the first Christmas novel of all, of course, was A Christmas Carol, by Charles Dickens. He wrote it in six weeks, but the unoptimistic publishers didn’t get the first run of 6000 copies on the stalls until December 19. And every one was gone by Christmas Eve. The novel was still being invented back in 1843, so your kids need to be able to work with convoluted sentences and a decided lack of action. But this is where it all started! It’s worth re-reading!