Monthly Archives: January 2015

Does Your Partner Sabotage Your Organizing Efforts?

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In my work as a professional organizer, there are many occasions in which my former career as a psychologist comes in quite handy. For example, a new client that I worked with for the first time this week expressed extreme frustration regarding the clutter that her spouse creates in their home.  She’s not alone.

I routinely come across situations where there is an inconsistency across spouses/partners with regard to the value they place on living in an organized home. I offer these words of wisdom to couples who find themselves in this situation:

Seek Counseling

If you and your partner have been dealing unsuccessfully with this particular point of contention in your relationship for an extended period of time, you will likely benefit from professional counseling to help open the lines of communication. It’s important to effectively communicate to your partner:

  • how you think the household disorganization is negatively impacting you/your household/your family
  • how having a more organized home can benefit everyone
  • what your specific expectations are for each area of the home

Hire a Pro

Since organizing is a teachable skill, it may be worth the investment to hire a professional organizer to assist your partner in learning new organizing skills (if s/he is open to it).  The organizer can triage the most problematic areas in your home, declutter, create systems, and provide instruction on how to maintain an organized state for those particular areas. You can find an organizer who works in your geographical area by searching the National Association of Professional Organizers’ online directory.

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Learn to Compromise

As in any area of disagreement, the art of compromise should never be underestimated. Perhaps you can come to an agreement that the common or “public” areas need to be kept uncluttered and organized, and you’ll learn to accept disorganized bedrooms, basement, and closets.

Another way to compromise might be to reach an agreement that you will take on the role of resident “cleaner/organizer”, if your partner prepares all the meals and handles all the laundry. This way, you can each play on your strengths and preferences to work as a team in order to maintain the household in a way that is acceptable to everyone.

Designate a “Clutter-Free” Zone

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If all else fails, designate a particular room or portion of one that can serve as your haven from the rest of the cluttered house.  Ask other family members to refrain from using the space (unless they are able to maintain its clutter-free status).

Do you and your partner experience “Clutter Clashes”?  If so, I invite you to comment on how you have successfully navigated through the conflict in your household so that others who struggle with this issue can learn from your experience!

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Share Your “One Thing” for 2015!

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It’s so easy to get swept up in the excitement of the new year, don’t you agree?

I have a history of being overzealous when it comes to my list of New Year’s resolutions. My tendency is to attempt to achieve too many goals simultaneously, which often results in a failure to achieve any of them.  Can you relate?

I smartened up over the last couple of years and started to heed the advice that I often give my clients…focus on just one thing at a time. 

In 2014, my one organizing goal was to improve the functionality of several closets in our home (the guest room and my daughter’s bedroom). So what is my One Thing for 2015?  Actually, it has nothing to do with tackling a space within my home.

Planning The Menu

For years, our family has struggled with the “It’s 4:00…What’s for Dinner?” Syndrome, which leads to a lot of unnecessary stress, unhealthy eating habits, and overspending. So my One Thing for 2015 is to consistently plan out and shop for our weekly meals ahead of time.

How can I increase the probability of meeting my goal/resolution?

Focus on the benefits I will experience as a consequence of achieving the goal

~  Less stress…since I will have a plan in place

~  More money…since we won’t have to eat take-out food by necessity any longer

~ Improved health…since planning meals enables me to make healthier choices for our family

Create a list of concrete action steps

  1. Create a “Master List” of meals that all (or most) of my family members will eat
  2. Identify a printable menu planning/grocery list to use as a tool for mapping out my weekly plan
  3. Incorporate a meal planning component into our weekly family meeting that occurs on Sunday evenings, so that I can get family member input
  4. Explore meal planning programs and apps, such as Emeals.com to determine if they might be useful (my kids are extremely picky eaters, so I’m pessimistic about the usefulness of such resources for my family)
  5. To the extent possible, batch process weekly food preparation (e.g., dice veggies, measure out portions) in a single hour-long session each Sunday

Enlist the help of an accountability partner

Communicating your desire to achieve a goal to other people and asking them to support you and hold you accountable throughout the process is one of the most powerful methods for helping you stick to your commitment.

Now that I’ve put my 2015 goal out there for all of you to see, I’ve got no choice but to achieve my goal!  I invite you to hold me accountable via blog comments, emails, and Facebook check ins. My plan is to write a follow-up post at the end of February to share my progress.

Now, it’s your turn.

I invite you to share your One Thing for this year below in the comments section. Perhaps it’s a chaotic space you’d like to tackle, a system you plan to implement in order to increase household efficiency, or a clutter-producing habit that you’d like to nip in the bud. I’d love to serve as your accountability partner in order to help you achieve success in 2015!

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